I am my Father's Son! - Part 1

Such a powerful phrase, right? or... the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... like mother like daughter...or I just call my fiancee by her mother's name from time to time, just to poke at her... hehehe.
So how do you get to state of Peace within and accept that you have been created by He that came before you, and you are right now exactly like him?
Well today, let's take just a few beginning steps to reclaim one's self:

1. Buy yourself a journal, something that you feel good writing in. It doesn't have to be fancy, just something that's yours. (Try to avoid just using a computer (he said as he typed fervently). It's really important to connect physically pen to paper. It will allow your mind to open.
2. Ask yourself out loud, "Please let me write without judgement or hesitation." It's just words, but try to get through without stopping, scratching out paragraphs or tearing out pages.

Now with your handy journal:

1. write on the left, "Things I Love about my dad". Make them physical, emotional, whatever. (i.e. "my dad has a great head of hair, He is a charming yet dirty old man").
2. On the Right, "Things I wish I could change about my DAD." let that list include past and present behaviors.
3. Go through, and now begin circling everything that you are similar if not identical to. At the end of the exercise (assuming that you're new to this type of work) your page should be 75% circled if not more.
4. Now go to the top of the page and put a line through the word DAD, and write above it MYSELF.
5. You now have 2 lists. Mainly circled, "things I love about myself", and "things I wish I could change about myself."
6. You are now at the first step of recognizing (not judging) who you are, and recognizing what you are, and apparently what you aren't yet.
7. You can even start putting stars next to what items you'd like to change about yourself first.

That's a great beginning. Look at that in the morning and again at night, and soon I will have some more tips of how to take the next step. The most important part is that you've already taken the first step in proving that you have the ability to change. You have the option of being your own person and not a clone of your papa. That should feel pretty liberating. Your journey and challenges and successes will be different from his, from this day onward.

Stay classy, and we'll talk again soon.

Blog Creation...and Creation in general... what does it mean???

Some people think of Creation as a manifested act. Some think of it as God creating all. And some think of it as Chaos. I'll call it a Potpourri of all of that. At least in regards to this blog, and who I am and where I am: There's no simple answer to how I got here.

I know that I've had a message to pass on for many years. When I sat down to console my friends, listen to relationship problems, family problems, general stress, It's always seemed that there was information flowing through me that may or may not have originated from within me. I've sounded a little wiser beyond my years, and I can attribute that to my higher power. I've been given the opportunity to coach people on this earth and there's no way I would turn my back on this blessing. So that is the God factor.

Now for the manifested side of things. I started a while back saying, "I want to be a life coach, I think I have what it takes to be good at this." And on a daily basis I would take that reflective time to check in to see where I was each day, how I felt, what adjustments I needed to make. And more and more recently, that command out to the world has become louder and louder. I know what I should be doing. I have people every day approaching me, and within a minute of conversing, they're asking me for a little help with their problem, and I generally have either a course of corrective action or a more delving question right back at them to get to the core. So I'm here for a life of service which I gladly accept.

And I'll tell you that what's taken me so long has had to do with doing the work on myself, being the example. I am walking the walk, and am proud to say I've developed my own relationship with the present moment in a peaceful fashion. I've talked to people in the past who are life coaches, Psychologists, Doctors, authors, counselors, and they've all had the same problem: they all were riddled with issues and baggage! Well the truth is that we all are, and that we are always in a state of change, that our interactive nature on this earth causes us to adapt and change. Sometimes the change is for the worse as our nueroses start us on a repetitive thought pattern. But sometimes we choose to adapt in a more positive and healthy fashion.

I just know that my goal a long time ago was to be in a place of peace and joy with myself before "officially" helping someone else. Otherwise, my listening, guidance, opinions, and interactions would be tainted by the internal issues of fear, regret, pain, anger, depression, grief, and betrayal. I've heard so many people of authority speak to me who wreak of of these in their every word, and before long the credibility started dwindling away. Just like everyone else, I absolutely feel these emotions all the time. But the difference is that I am informed by the emotions, not governed by them, and can make corrective changes to shift my energy. I have made it to a point where I am no longer controlled by any one of these. These emotions are my allies, not my achilles.

And the chaos that I was speaking of earlier, how I got to a blog and how I got to call it OHM-Man is a mystery. There was a life coach that had a workshop for women last year that my girlfriend signed up for. I felt a little left out. I totally understand that there has been so much persecution for women to overcome, and having a support group and coaching for women is a fantastic and positive thing. That still didn't change the fact that I felt excluded and felt like "I don't have support group! Most guys I know drink beer, talk sports and make sexual remarks. And that's me as well... guilty! BUT... I can only do that for about 15 mintues, and then it gets old (that's what she said)...

No seriously, I think a support group for men, how to help us men grow beyond what the world has expected us to be and evolve into the fantastic, loving individuals we can be. And I began the idea of the blog. And of course the name came from a beautiful act of serendipiosity or serendipatiousness...
I created a business card BEFORE I had made the decision to move forward working as a life coach. I wrote on the card "Relationship Coach" and had an Ohm sign in the middle of it. I then was speaking with a young woman about my just making the card to start the creation of this future of mine, and she saw it, and said "The Ohm sign. Oh my god, i love it." and I said, "Did you say Ohm-My God" and That started it. Within a few minutes of making jokes of what phrases I could insert Ohm into, the name "OHM-man" was born. And here I am.

Our Purpose is to begin to pinpoint how we can make those daily corrections to our energies and mindset to be in a consistent space of peace, happiness and love, with ourselves, our loved-ones, family, job, hobbies. I know we have off days, and great moments. But we're going to discover what it takes to consistently have "Great Days" and very few "Off moments".